Response to previous letter

Dear Cheri,
 You asked some  good questions previously. I guess I was lonely. My work had changed, my family life changed and I found myself lonely and sad. I reached out looking for friends and this couple presented themselves. I tried several times to push him away but he was so sweet to me and even though I can't give him what he was looking for he wanted me. When he talks to me he is excited about me. That is what draws me to him.

Frustrated

Dear Frustrated,
I am glad you responded. I am so sorry about your circumstances, have you looked for counseling? He is filling a void left in your life because of changes. Everyone deals with changes differently but it looks like you had multiple changes at once that may have caught you off guard. There is still time to correct this before it is too late. I ask that you get referrals from your clergy or work to get the help you need. You are not alone.

Cheri

A wife introduces other women to her husband

Dear Cheri,
I clicked the wrong thing on a profile I was setting up. Long story short I began talking to a woman and she was wanting me to meet her husband. She hoped one day she would meet me too but it was important for me to see him. He emailed me and we began talking. I live a few hours from him and would love to meet him. The kicker is I have am married too..
Frustrated

Dear Frustrated,
What drove you to a website that introduced you to people like that? You need to step back decide if you want to risk your marriage for a meeting with a married man?  Do you really think it was his wife or him pretending to be her to lure you in? If you clicked on a wrong button why then is it really important for  him to seen you? Couldn't his wife take care of him?
Cheri

He says I am needy...

Dear Cheri,

I have this friend named Chuck that said I was needy. He said because I asked how the sex was. I don't feel like I am being needy. He has told me about his other meetings how great they are. How one was like being with a soccer mom, one was like a porn star and one was the best so far. That one hurt because I had just been there a few weeks before. I just want to make sure I am doing it good enough.
Not needy

Dear Not Needy,
Why is his opinion that important? A man that labels women like that seems to be living out his fantasies. I wouldn't worry about what he thinks. If both of you enjoyed it and was able to get something out of  it then it was good. Don't ask him again. In my opinion he really isn't worth it and I am sure you are good enough. Believe in yourself and look for someone who will treat you with the respect that you deserve, not one that judges women in this way.
Cheri

Improper pictures taken in a classroom

Dear Cheri,

 I don't know what to think. I have a friend, I will call Chuck. He is married but allowed to play with other women. He sent me pictures of a woman that were partial nudes in a classroom. I don't know what to think. I feel conflicted. They are having their adult fun but what if I child walked in? He doesn't see an issue and thinks I am over reacting. What should I do? I don't want to jepordize the friendship but feel this woman is wrong.

Conflicted.

Dear Conflicted,

I think you must ask yourself first why this friendship is so important to you?

He is married what good is this relationship for you and what loyalty do you really have to them. 

Unfortunately, I don't think you have any leg to stand on dealing with this issue. There is the thought that he might come after you. This is troubling to me also but my feeling is if she is doing this with him, she will do it again with another whose wife will step up and  take her to task. In other words, she will get caught one day and you will safely be away from it. My suggestion again is to really think why you are in this relationship.

Cheri